one swallow doesnt make a summer

Here is something thats going around funny but sad at the same time.
typically when you are a mallu nair girl what happens is they start looking by the time you are done with your post grad. yes, they give you time till then!
with exceptions to every rule there are some parents who dont too, ( you can study more!!do it when you are married,of course, with his permission!!) says some parental units.
very rarely you find someone who says "no we want different things for her,or that we did not raise her for just this"

very very rarely.
i know for a fact that mine would have,if i hadnt paraded one disaster after another right under there noses! so in the time between me telling them about the mistaar and them thinking its time they did justice to their roles and stared looking and bringing in many many individuals of excellent standing.
this is also when i witnessed them turning into people i hardly knew!

i remember a particular man they got hooked onto! for what reason i dont understand and anyone who knows me will vote for the fact that i dont think of me up on some pedestal but cmon i got standards too! i am more or less pretty, why on earth would i not want someone who is good looking if not george clooney!
and especially since you guys are looking you might as well look real closely!
so this particular man was from "exceelent family from aristrocratic trivandrum"
"yeeexellent job and prospects"
after hearing all this i take a look.
one man wearing a yellow shirt, generous helping of oil obv believes in staying true to mallu roots, and frowning!
in ALL THREE PICTURES!
ok i can overlook the yellowness of the shirt,maybe even the oil! i could buy some shampoo!
but i try reminding mum what i have said about moustaches! and this guy's isnt even the very mallu one's that sometimes look decent on some people but almost like he had pencilled it on.
so i say all this and mum and dad in unison go ' but you can change all this" with such conviction that i was taken aback.

only one question! wh!!
why would i want to change someone.not only do i have to marry this man you have found and then i have to parade him around AND introduce him as the husband and then i gotta change him and in all likelihood be blamed for it later!
what part of anything iever at all said about marriage did you misunderstand as this!

anyway, i got these two girlfriends who are close to me,single and are currently saying pretty much saying all this.
one met a fat guy. and when she said no, not interested. was asked why, was she that shallow?

say yes! say yes you are that shallow. why shouldnt you be? you are going to spend the next say 40 years! why cant you say no to a fat man if you are not interested.
no offense to fat men,there are some who make up with intelligence and wit and what not.

the mistaar meanwhile seeing the kind of proposals coming in says " ah i got nothing to worry about" and goes back to whatever he was doing.

ps: i just like that phrase i used as title.